The Eight Symptoms of Parental Alienation

1/6/2017

This post is the first of eight weekly posts focusing on each of the eight symptoms of Parental Alienation first identified by Richard Gardner, M.D.

The first symptom of Parental Alienation is the “Campaign of Denigration”. This refers to the child’s view of the “hated” parent. It is important to understand that this is composed of two components.

First, the campaign of denigration refers to the one being waged by the accusing parent in his or her indoctrination to the child. The other component is the child’s own contribution towards this denigration.

This second part is critical and is the actual symptom seen within the child. Without it, the child is not truly alienated, and with it the indoctrinating parent can “sit back” and let the child be the voice of criticism of the Target Parent.

This second component - its expression from the child - is what makes this process so baffling and intimidating to those trying to help.

Often the child is the primary voice of the criticism, and the indoctrinating parent often appears surprised at what the child is saying, obviously disavowing any contribution to it. But how is such a thing possible? How is it that a loving child could suddenly begin to accuse a once loved parent in such compelling and hated terms?

In order to answer this, one must consider what happens psychologically to a child when their parents separate and divorce. Assuming both parents had a loving relationship with the child, and assuming that neither parent was abusive, what happens when divorce occurs is that the child is forced into a situation where he or she is with one parent or the other, but no longer with both at the same time.

Consequently, when they are with parent A, they are in some way dealing with the loss of parent B. When each parent promotes and encourages the child’s relationship with the other parent, the parentally responsible position, then the grief over the loss of the absent parent is mitigated significantly. If however, when the child is with parent A, and when with this parent, expresses negative and critical things about the absent parent, the child is placed in a serious divided loyalty conflict wherein if he or she must choose. If the child openly expresses love for the absent and targeted parent, this child’s expression of that love flies in the face of what they are being told by the parent with whom they reside. In other words, if they express love for the absent parent they are betraying the parent with whom they live.

After this condition persists for a time, the child’s confusion and turmoil increases to the point where they “cross over” to the side of the Alienating Parent.

It is at this point that the child, in the absence of the Target Parent, tends to repress his or loving feelings for that absent parent in order to resolve the inner turmoil. This is what I refer to as the “threshold point “when the child begins to become alienated and begins to actually contribute to the campaign of denigration. The Alienating Parent then typically takes a more protective stance and points to the child's fears as his or her only concern.

The campaign of denigration then refers to the child’s criticisms of the targeted parent. It is the result of the influence of the other parent’s coaching, and disapproval of the targeted parent.

We must recall than when alienation is not present, it is very difficult to get a child to be critical of either parent. In the normal course of divorce when parental alienation is not present, the child will do anything to stay out of the middle. Therefore, this campaign of denigration is fundamentally unnatural. With all of this in mind, I would be interested in comments about your experiences with this phenomenon.

Read more about each symptom in the Eight Symptoms of Parental Alienation blog series;

Symptom 1: Campaign of Denigration
Symptom 2: Weak or Frivolous Rationalizations for the Deprecation
Symptom 3: Lack of Ambivalence
Symptom 4: Independent Thinker Phenomenon
Symptom 5: The Reflexive Support of the Alienating Parent in the Parental Conflict
Symptom 6: Absence of Guilt over Cruelty to and/or Exploitation of the Alienated Parent
Symptom 7: The Presence of Borrowed Scenarios
Symptom 8: The Spread of the Animosity to the Friends and/or Extended Family of the Alienated Parent

Parental Alienation Education for Attorneys

Effective litigation can change the face of Parental Alienation. The National Association of Parental Alienation Specialists, of which I am Co-Founder, has launched a new online workshop - "Litigating Family Law Cases with Parental Alienation" - please help us to spread the word about this FL Bar approved workshop by sharing this link with your attorney, and others specializing in Family Law.

Anne

1/10/2017 01:31:49 pm

I am a grandmother who is assisting a son in shared custody. The mother is seemingly telling my granddaughter who is 5 things to cause the 5yo to be cautious when first with me it wears off as the week goes by. My son is a truckie and i do have a big part in their life as a carer. The mother also works and now has a new partner . This partner was abusive in a handover along with the mother regarding me while the child was in the car. Handover is now ina public place under surveillance cameras at the suggestion of police.

Laurie

7/5/2018 11:33:16 am

Grandmother, I hope to give you some hope. Just hang tough. Keep loving your granddaughter and soon she will realize you are not what her mother says you are. Perhaps as she gets a little older mom will realize that her daughter will soon see for herself who the rotten person is and mom certainly won't want that. I went through nine years of this. I NEVER had my granddaughter alone until this ninth year. Her mother suddenly handed the olive branch to me. It's like nothing has ever been wrong. I accept it and will continue to be nice to her and respectful of her motherhood. My granddaughter who will be ten in August seems to have come alive suddenly. She has no hesitation around me and is receiving love but not really showing it. I suppose that will come in time too. She is FREE to love me and the difference in her personality is like night and day.

GLENN A WARREN

4/7/2019 06:55:43 pm

Dear Grandma; Keep a contemporaneous journal of what happens, what is said. Get proficient with using the video feature on your phone to hit the play button when your grand daughter is commenting or if your hear mom making denigrating statements about your son. Do not retaliate or reciprocate- no talking down or making negative comments about mom, especially around your grand daughter. This will only make things worth for the child. Good luck.

Rebecca

1/10/2017 06:37:43 pm

I see this exactly as is stated. I can relate to choosing parents. I'm a child of divorce. It is a choice that children consider no matter what the parental relationship. So now I that I'm divorced myself. I can see my own child's turmoil. And she said this. It's best that way. Meaning If I choose to not like you. I will have a better life because my home parent will be happier and thus make life easier. She didn't give an explanation of why It's Better That Way. She also said. I know this is hard for you mom. So she is saying I understand the consequences. And I understand you love me. I understand that this is not the best way to treat anyone. She is saying if I had a choice I wouldn't do anything to hurt you.
She is simply giving in to the overwhelming pressures.
It took six years. But her father is now able to say for the first time in six years. Your daughter doesn't like you. Also mybdaufgter claims No judge can Make her do anything she doesnt want to do.
So yes after six years of him trying to convince a judge his daughter somehow just doesn't like her mom. He now hears his daughter confirm this. And now he is finally done and now he feels free of his child's mother. Because he doesn't have to see his daughters desire for her mother. This must be so gratifying to the alienator. I believe he doubted that she would ever want to say I don't want my mom. Because she did want her mom for six years.
But he's very happy now. She finally is saying I don't want my mom.

Kjat

5/18/2017 08:06:46 pm

Thank you for sharing your story. So sad and so true. This is exactly what happens. It's child abuse, plain and simple by the alienator.

Cheryl Regalbuto

7/7/2017 11:41:09 pm

Rebecca sadly this has happened to me exactly with four of my five children. My oldest daughter lives with me. Her father recently disowned her a couple years ago. He alienates the other four against me and our 26 year old daughter. What normal person disowns a child for any reason let alone loving the other parent?!?!? Sad and sickening. The laws need to change and perpetrators need punishment

Quirky Friend

7/5/2018 10:43:45 pm

Don't give in. We have my step daughter back with us after 5 hard years of alienation. Worst part is the damage caused by her mother's neglect and abuse. As she's emancipated we don't hold back if she spouts a "truth" from her mother. We correct it matter of factly and ask if she wants to know more. She's caught up academically and has had outstanding health issues resolved in two years but still has big issues, but at least she's still seeing a therapist.

Lea

10/7/2018 07:31:45 am

Rebecca,
🌞I hope you're doing ok- I see you wrote your post almost 2years ago and just wanted to write a quick note. Most likely your daughter has returned to you and you two are living a content, respectful and loving life together. Your post made my heart ache because I understand that pain you were in. My two boys are (almost) completely out of my life, but when I read your post I could see that you're just at the beginning of it all when you posted. Early on you don't know what to expect and so don't put anything past anyone...protect your daughter and your self as best you can-maybe things work out fine but be alert that people can shock you: until I came to realize realize the extent my ex husbands, Mother in law and her enormous extended family would go when they get in there heads that destroying my happiness and life's purpose was worth more to them than the happiness and wellbeing of the children (only two grandchildren in entire family) involved-I'm going to think of your situation and send good thoughts into the world🌿
If you have your daughter, cherish her and your relationship with her...there's no better blessing in love than to be with your child! I think about all the hours I cleaned and did laundry after coming home from nursing school- my youngest would ask me to read and I'd usually say just a minute....if I could trade back gay time I'd leave my house a pigsty!!!

Joe

1/18/2017 01:46:28 am

My daughters' mother did and does the same with me, Rebecca. It broke my heart. I accept now and moved on. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Rona Sedman

4/20/2017 12:48:54 pm

My son at 14 years of age was/is utterly alienated from me by his father, that was 14 yrs ago. At the time I knew exactly what the father was doing but totally powerless to do anything about it, even though my lawyer was aware of it, it was "my son's choice" not to see me. Our younger daughter was nearly turned also, but has been amazing to insist on a relationship with me. It's devastating and each day, week, month, year, I remain hopeful my son will come asking questions. Educating child psychologists, often the first port of call, and others in relevant positions, to address this, is great thank you !!!

Tina Martin

5/18/2017 05:03:25 pm

This has happened in our family and it prevails even in an almost 50/50 custody yet the children are convinced they are with their custodial parent more often and dismiss their time in the alienated home as something to just tolerate.

Giana

5/19/2017 07:19:04 am

This happened to my husband back in 2000. The ex made false allegations of abuse and actually brainwashed the kids into saying horrible things to their own father. Fast forward 17 year later he reunited with his daughter back in 2010 after he found out her own mother threw both her and her brother in jail for domestic violence (of course the mother says she was abused by her own kids) - the kids still have a relationship with their mom the son who is in his mid 20s lives with his mom and will not speak to his father at all. The son Is just a mess can not even keep a girlfriend for too long before mom squashes that relationship too. - this is truly a form of child abuse.

Janice

5/19/2017 08:55:00 am

The assumption seems to be that the custodial parent does the alienating. I did my best to help not harm our kids. My ex set about on a campaign of denigrating me, and turning the children against me, and winning them over to "his side", while they were on access. There was nothing I could do about it other than start where they were when they returned from access. I felt relieved when they got through childhood apparently mostly intact. Then when my ex husband died, my daughter attacked me and defined me negatively, as if it was my ex husband speaking. She reinterpreted my whole life, and her life with me, in his terms. She said her childhood was unhappy, that I had never been a mother to her, and that I didn't know how to be a mother. I was so hurt, I collapsed in a heap, mentally and physically. I needed three weeks off work, and was lucky to have skilled counselling. Four years later I have still not got back to who I was. I still feel deeply hurt, and remain afraid of my daughter's desire, and power, to hurt me as much as possible, on behalf of her bitter, vindictive father, who, in truth, did not know how to be a father.

Marsi

7/2/2017 08:57:56 pm

You are not the victim more than your daughter. You have to understand that this attitude is probably how she is choosing to deal with his passing. To do otherwise would be a stain on her memory of her father. Not sure of her age but try and be patient and let time heal. Good luck and God bless. It's painful when our children accuse and blame us with these unfounded/alternative memories.

Cheryl Regalbuto

7/7/2017 11:50:24 pm

Janice I hold heartedly understand the attack of kids. My adult second child daughter has verbally attacked me saying exactly the same. Defending her father that was pretty much nonexistent. The proof for me is in the photos, videos and me saving every special things my 5 kids made me throughout the years. And my ex can never take the beautiful loving memories I have with my kids from me.

Connie Spinhrim link

4/21/2019 01:18:11 pm

Hi Janice...please see my website...as I feel similar to you..
I am building a TORT of OUTRAGE ..against the Ex...and possibly the daughter. I know that sounds crazy and harsh..but I was thrown in county jail for simply loving her.

Marsi

7/2/2017 08:52:23 pm

I like your posts, but would like to see your perspective about a child that has no memory of the child that lived with both parents. I divorced when she was 6 mos. old and NEVER bad mouthed her father and we were great co parents even though he owed over $46k in child support. I didn't want to tarnish him in front of her and yet, here I sit-alienated with all sorts of horrible abuse lies and much more. I guess all I'm trying to say is, it can happen to anybody regardless of what brought us here.

Rebekah

7/13/2017 12:48:38 am

I lost my daughters to my ex because of lies and a crooked judge. My daughters and I had great relationships prior to my ex taking them. I was blocked over and over again trying to see them (through no fault of my own.)
My ex didn't do this out of love for our girls but to pay me back for not wanting him. Now it has been 7 years sense I last saw them. They both of legal age.
Everyone tells me, they will come back to me. I know it will not hapoen until he dies. I look forward to that day when I hear he is dead. I know he will rot in hell for what he has done. God is just.
My ex has not only hurt me but he has hurt our daughters by his actions.
I do not believe they will ever cone back to me. My life is destroyed. :(

Bruce

7/5/2018 07:10:37 pm

Rebekah you are not alone. The same has happened to me. Anyone who pushes lies down to children will pay severely. One of my sons has come back halfway after doing and sacrificing so much to pull him out of the grip of addiction and suicide. My oldest is an alcoholic same as her mother and my youngest son is on a very slippery slope with drugs, her alienation campaign has been accompanied by totally permissive lifestyle. I just hope and pray they can come out of it and still experience the great joys of life. For me, it almost drove me to suicide but I have done my best to blank it out (at times very difficult) and make the very best of every single moment.
PAS is a phenomenon which is mostly understood by the alienated parent. Generally people around you can not see or feel the discontinuity of life you experience alone. My close family understood the mentally unstable condition of the spouse I faced and persevered for two many years. But the courts turned on me as if they to were alienated by a crafty vicious lawyer. It was a carefully orchestrated battle by my ex wife's lawyer to win the courtroom prize. Very sad. You're not alone.

Christina Posavec

8/11/2018 06:59:14 am

Keep having faith. I am dealing with the same thing. My son and daughter have chosen to live with their father and have no contact with me. The silence is killing me. I am believing they will one day come back and want to be in my life. I love them with all my heart and soul.

Connie sponSpon link

4/21/2019 01:30:22 pm

SUE him!!..Punitive Damages$$
You are not past 'statute of limitations'...as there is FRAUD..but you must study Common Law..and Do NOT use an attorney!! Represent yourself..You have a case!

Kat

2/23/2018 01:27:03 pm

On-point. I'm in my 8th year of being a target parent. My ex's current wife has severely brainwashed and alienated my daughter from me with a web of vile and disgusting lies. What she's done (and continues to do) IS CHILD ABUSE. My daughter no longer knows who I am because his wife has convinced my daughter that SHE is her Mother and posts lies on social media saying she raised her, she's so proud of "her daughter", etc.
If my daughter wakes up to all the lies, one day, I wonder how my ex's wife will be able to explain (cover up) those lies, with more lies.
I can't even explain P.A. to friends, because they cannot begin to understand it. To that point, when i tried years ago to explain this nightmare to my former best friend, she refused to believe any of this and has been telling my daughter she supports her hate for me.
My daughter was my life. Everyone knows I was an exceptional parent to my daughter and was loving and affectionate and involved and I raised her alone. All that time, I did EVERYTHING to make sure my daughter spent time with her Dad. We had no issues until his current started alienating my daughter. Every day is beyond the realm of excruciating pain. I miss and love my daughter so much. It's difficult to handle.

Cath

7/5/2018 03:48:39 pm

So glad to see this particular post involving a step mother. This is happening right now to my own daughter, her two girls 11 & 8 have been in the step mother's care as the father's wife for the last 3 years. Too much going on just want to say it is a major form of child abuse

MaryBeth Zadorozny

7/5/2018 02:07:44 pm

I am dealing with this right now, after the divorce my son was great, he had no issues coming back and forth, he has told me in the past that he couldn’t even bring up my name or my partners name or even our dogs name his dad would be furious. So he stopped talking about anything that we did. He has gone on vacation with us and was happy. We started the process in May of 2015. Then last June 2016 my ex told him if he didn’t want to come here he didn’t half to. We were back in a court battle that he started. My son was ordered to come and then his dad would pick him up before he was supposed to. My ex ended up in jail in sept for abusing his current wife while my son was in the house I got my son for two weeks and then he picked him up again against the orders. He has a lot of his daddy’s money so he was able to do whatever. My son now 14 lies or his father lied and said my partner pushed him out the door which never happened! So he never comes here. I haven’t seen him since March 2nd! He has blocked me from calling or texting him. I have reached out to my ex and his wife nicely asking to please help me see my son, I was nice! I asked to meet up with them and my son even though that would kill me but I would do anything. All I get is nasty messages that my son doesn’t want to see me or talk to me that he knows I’m trying to destroy his father and he isn’t happy, it’s actually the other way around. How do I fix this? What can I do? If I can’t call him or text him. What can I do? He is being lied to about me and no one seems to care. The court system is a joke! How an abusing man who is an alcoholic with 3 DUI’s gets my son I will never understand! My heart is broken! I’m trying to stay strong but some days are just so hard! I need help!

Brad

7/10/2018 09:44:16 pm

If you ever are able to come up with a fix, please let me know, The courts dont understand this, and stretch out court dates for 6 months from now, or a postponement for 6 more months.It has been 7 years How can we fix this?

Shelby

7/5/2018 04:28:05 pm

My daughter in law had a baby when she was 18. Her and the dad didn't marry, and ended their relationship when the boy was 3. Dad moved to a different state and was reluctant to pay support. Dad rarely wanted son to visit. But when dad asked, mom made it happen. Move forward, mom files for child support when boy was 8. All of ansudden, Dad decides he wants to be in sona life and files for custody. Called CPS on mom and her husband (my son). Dad was ordered to pay support, he didnt. Dad was granted joint legal custody with mom having full physical custody. Dad gets married, step mom thinks mom still wants to be with dad, and then it got fun. Dad refused to send child back after summer break. Withdrew him from school, enrolled him in new school and allowed step mom to take child to a therapist, without notified mom. Mom filed contempt, dad returned child. Step mom is the naracist. She makes out to everyone, runs a PA sight for kentucky, all the while blaming bio mom for all the things step mom does. Mom just got child back two days ago, and he was told by dad that bio mom doesn't lI've him, bio mom doesn't want him, all bio mom wants is support.

My point is, it isn't always the custodial parent who is the naracist or parental alienator. Eitherway, the child suffers, which is unacceptable.

Robert Paige

7/5/2018 07:03:20 pm

My situation began over 18 years ago. My story of how the Family Court system along with CPS, court appointed counselors, my ex-wife, as well as court appointed GAL’s dragged out my case which indeed cost me several thousand dollars in legal expenses and tried to silence me. All the lies, misrepresentations of my character, unsubstantiated as well as uncorroborated documents that summarize the entire nightmare including the loss of my fatherly rights to see my own daughter that I was faced with and continue to struggle from 18 years later.

Divorce Proceedings Part I: http://youtu.be/it1dWODjk3A

Grandma

7/5/2018 08:26:43 pm

My son’s first marriage ended after the wife said she didn’t love him to begin with, he just made her marry him. They had a daughter, and divorced two years after she was born. It was a horrific breakup, at her birthday party his wife gave the keys to two friends who went into their apartment and packed her stuff up and put in a haul and left. At the party, her step father and mother grabbed his daughter from his arms, threw her into a van, and left the state. They had visitation at first, but his little girl would be so upset coming back on Sunday afternoon, that she basically refused anymore visits despite family court charging fines instead of jail times. My son, her daddy has been murdered since then, she is 16. She is scared to death. She looks for answers, she asks everybody, did my daddy love me, even people who did not know him. And when she asks me she looks at me with this blank stare. I know her mother has brainwashed her about not only son, but me to. I feel that blank stare is the wall that blocks my words out, they just bounce off. I simply do not know what to do. My rage says I need to step in legally, and sue every single human being in this system that has done this to her. But common sense knows that if I so much as raise my eye brow, she will recant, clam up, swear up and down her mother never did anything. She tells me what her mother has done to her, she also tells me she loves her mother and does not want to loose her.

Glenn Goodman

7/8/2018 08:07:45 pm

Thank you for this article and the comments. I have been wondering if their was a "threshold point"? It just seems natural that any kid would want to stop the pain, the fighting, and the inner conflict by any means. Including rejecting a parent.

Mary

7/13/2018 01:01:31 pm

One issue I have not seen addressed is the alienation of an adult child from one parent. Meaning, the alienation happens as an adult.

Christina Posavec

8/11/2018 07:01:19 am

I would love to hear more on this subject as my daughter is almost 18 and currently not having anything to do with me. Do I keep emailing them? They got real angry last time and asked me to stop .

Roger D.

9/1/2018 05:10:00 pm

My eldest daughter has recently stopped talking to me. My ex took my two children out of the country 6 years ago. so it makes it really difficult to see my children I tried to see them in July but my ex convinced my eldest that she had to work for the entire month. This was a regular occurrence, when I am due my visitation she will make some excuse why one of my daughters can't come with me. This time I had my lawyer send her a letter. This made things worse and now my eldest won't answer the phone or reply to any texts. I feel I have lost her. I miss her so much.

David link

1/16/2019 01:04:19 pm

Sucks man!! Just continue trying your best to call or text daily. Just let them know you love them daily. That’s all I can do, mine won’t answer the phone, and rarely messages back. Her mother somehow has her phone messages sent straight to her phone also. Mother/ex monitors mainly just our communication. She’s openly admitted it 3 different occasions. So I know that is part of it! Mother/ex checks every box almost when comparing narcissist behavior.? affects to my child because of “living with a narcissist parent” huhuhhh almost all boxes get checked!! But I Had to let my daughter know (when talking about the way mom acts) that it’s not her fault, and since I’ve discussed it with my daughter, she understands a lil better but she still seeks validation from her mother and never gets it! Always an uphill battle just for little things!

Dan H

11/15/2018 03:31:53 am

My daughter is now 8. My ex has been doing these things since my daughter was born. In January of this year, my daughter got sick with a fever. I had her to her pediatrician 5 days before for similar; but different circumstances. Our regular family doctor prescribed an antibiotic. I took my little one home after picking up the prescription. I made lunch for her and gave her the first dose, then I got her to take a nap. When she woke up, the fever had broken. My ex did not show up to pick up our daughter when she was supposed to. At 45 minutes after the pick up time, I sent a message that I was taking the kid out for something to eat. I waited 15 minutes and not getting a response, gave my daughter a second dose of her medicine and got her something to eat. We were on our way back when the message came in that the ex was waiting at my place to pick up our daughter for her visitation time. When we got there, the ex was red faced angry, refused to discuss our daughter's diagnosis, refused to discuss the time the child would be returned that night, started swinging a cell phone back and forth inches from my face, all of this while pushing and shoving me. Although the court order said I was supposed to be returned that night, the ex kept the child, interrupting her treatment, for 4 days that she was supposed to be with me. When we finally got to court, the ex admitted to threatening me with death - because I made the ex angry. The ex also admitted to the pushing and shoving for the same reason. My daughter then started using some of my ex's language about death and dying in school, which led to her being sent to the school psychologist. We were sentenced to have all exchanges at the police station. The ex refused to bring the child into the police station and insisted that I go out into the parking lot where the verbal abuse continued. In April, we were back in court because the ex and the significant other were claiming that I was aggravating them by involving our daughter in activities such as girl scouts, team sports, and CCD classes so she could make her first communion. I was also aggravating them by complaining that they left me in the police station waiting several times for a half hour for them to drop off my daughter without answering texts asking if they were coming. The ex again stated that there were death threats made because I made them angry. The judges response was "You really shouldn't do that." My daughter told the school psychologist about her recurring nightmares about my ex taking a kitchen knife and stabbing me to death - she's been witness to the threats and even been told to relay the message more than once. All of this has been brought to the court's attention. Up until now, I've gone out of my way to conceal the sex of the parents. Had it been the father that was engaging in this type of behavior - clearly acts of domestic violence - the man would have supervised visitation only. In this case, it's the mother committing these atrocious acts. The last time I was in court, I was ridiculed by the judge for causing these problems by aggravating the mom and told that I needed to be more like mom's new boyfriend who has raised his kids. I volunteer with the girl scouts, coached my daughter's teams for the last 4 years, saw to all but one of her vaccinations and doctor's visits since she was born, and as the PPR, I've managed her school and school related activities for the last 5 years. I think I've had more than enough of the sexual discrimination by the courts in the way they have handled this situation and I'm tired of trying to be the nice guy while my kid is being told that her mom is going to replace me with this new daddy and toss me away like the piece of trash that I am. Until the courts acknowledge and put an end to the bigotry or my kid grows up, this isn't going to end for me or for my daughter who is in counseling because of it.

David

1/16/2019 12:38:58 pm

Stay strong! Don’t give up! Don’t give in! Fight for your daughter, Not literally! I’m in same situation.

Laura Phillips

3/19/2019 06:27:02 am

In UK, people are distributing videos and information on Parental Alienation to the schools: https://www.consumerwatchfoundation.com/now-can-watch-parental-alienation-video-thats-teaching-schools-thing-two/?fbclid=IwAR0Cf6LhSkTtVtf5InriqRjvPQ7qrslbjyo-mTwXwCpGY5VPGhjB0Yhq9cI

Chris link

4/4/2019 02:36:29 am

My name is Chris I’m in alienated parent. My daughter Ann Dolores was born the day after my 30th birthday I haven’t spent any significant time with her in four years even though I live 5 miles from her at her Mom’s. She is 17 and applying to colleges and she won’t talk to me.

Her Mom is a Doctor. I was an attorney but left the law when I moved from NYC to be near my daughter in Florida. As a lawyer I believe most parents can sue the alienating prarent for intentional infliction of emotional distresss. And I think if the facts exist you can sue the effort fraud in the inducement to enter a contract. I am working on doing that now.

John

4/7/2019 06:11:02 pm

My wife filed for divorce when we were married 6 years and had 3 children. My daughter was 2 and my oldest was 5.
When I refused to let her take my kids and move 2000 miles to shack up with the guy she left me for, she became vindictive. Not long after, my kids started acting differently. A series of CPS investigations, endless of trips to court every 3 months, 9 months of supervised visitation due to her perjury and false allegations ensued.
When my oldest turned 12, he left his mother and moved in with me. His mother had been treating him the same way she treated me.
10 years later, I have zero contact with my younger 2 kids, haven't talked to them in 2 years by their choice, not mine.
They hate me, I love them. It never gets better.

Jennifer

4/8/2019 07:03:02 am

The whole court system in these cases are so screwed up. And dcfs is screwed up. My ex sister in law decided she wanted to be single and be able to date whoever so she left my brother taking my 2 nephews with her. She on the daily tells the boys that their dad is on drugs and no good. Thankfully my nephews let me know what she says and they have questions. We always try and be honest with them. They know their dad is great and the love him to bits. They both have said they cant wait to get out of their moms house cause shes just not nice to them .But why I say the system is screwed up is she got a boyfriend 2 weeks after leaving my brothers house and wow surprise this guy is a pedophile. We call dcfs and they didn't do a thing .Just said well he cant stay the night at the house which the boys saw him sneak in after he left and dcfs still didn't do a thing. I feel awful for my brother and I feel awful for my nephews cause they know what they want but no courts care.

Connie Sponheim link

4/21/2019 01:03:21 pm

After getting thru the 15 years of the TRAUMA of losing my beloved daughter after a bitter divorce, then her rejection and abuse of me, the Ex's Emotional Abuse for years, his manipulation of a vulnerable&depressed young woman, then 10 months of county JAIL time for trying to see her, (after her suicide attempt) under an ILLEGAL 'NO CONTACT FRAUD ORDER', the ARREST, & INCARCERATION...
....I am building a TORT of OUTRAGE LAWSUIT against the EX (and quite possibly the daughter) for INTENTIONAL HARM & probable DESTRUCTION of a MOTHER...with Punitive Damages in the SIX FIGURES...I suffer hourly, use drugs/cannibus for sadness/anxiety/loss of joy, plus liguor, risky behavior..along with OTHER healthy choices...i.e.exercise, plant-based diet..utilizing counseling, creative activities, friends (I have no family due to their mental illness)..teaching, Nanny work, nature walks, travel, research...and all at a very vulnerable, dangerous time in our country's history.. as Globalists/Socialists are pushing hard to control populations..Just more to worry about..but I am an Activist.
You may view my brief (unfinished) story at www.theunbrokenmother.com...where I am also writing a book/play..
PLEASE...Lets call this what it is: PARENTAL ABUSE/Destruction/murder..Elder Abuse (I gave birth at 40)..as well as Corrupt JUDICIAL, LAW ENFORCEMENT, PROFIT PRISONS..ALL are COMPLICIT. Since I cannot sue them..I will use the corrupt system in Common Law, and ProSe.. (our original law that had been scrapped)..and Sue the origins of this heinous destruction of a good mother..the Ex..and YES, even the daughter..Since I know I will never see her again..or any grandchildren...I HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE....

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