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Parental Alienation: Surviving the Family Court System

11/18/2016

 
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Family court is unique among its other variants (criminal, administrative, etc.) in that the rules of evidence may be applied variously in deference to what is best for the children.

This has the effect of making any outcome in any Family Court vulnerable to manipulation and misrepresentation. In cases where Parental Alienation is present, this vulnerability is routinely exploited, making the parents status in this scenario especially precarious.
For example, when the court is faced with an allegation that one parent has abused a child, and this allegation is not carefully critiqued, the system opens itself up to limitless distortion.

I have personally witnessed countless examples of innocent parents being treated by the court as being abusive, when this was simply not the case. As any of these parents will attest, once this label has been acquired, it is very difficult to erase it in the eyes of the court. The abuse allegation may be ruled as being "unfounded," however the cloud of suspicion will probably remain, causing the court to hesitate to allow more time between that parent and that child. Any parents who have experienced this are nodding right now.


One of the most effective, yet still the least used strategies to correct this, is to "litigate the false allegation."

By this, we mean that the unjustly accused parent must do more than merely show that they did not commit the abuse. They should then go on to affirmatively argue that the making of the false allegation of abuse by the other parent, is itself evidence of pathological parenting.

They should then go on to show that this spurious misuse of the system is designed to actually remove the child from the accused parent for purposes of gaining advantage in the custody dispute.

This "second step," the litigating of the false abuse allegation is rarely pursued however. The omission of this step often spells the difference between the truth being revealed, or it being obfuscated.

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Nikki Kanakis
11/23/2016 04:11:19 pm

Thank you!
Please bring this to San Mateo county

Joan Kloth-Zanard link
12/7/2016 07:24:18 am

I agreecand habe been saying this for decades. In addition, I truly believed more cases need to be filed in civil court malicious prosecution and intentional infliction of emotional distress as well as defamation, slander and perjury.

Enough is Enough!!

Patty
4/5/2018 03:02:16 pm

Yes lets she them I have proof he lied and slandered

T Ross
12/12/2016 05:44:02 pm

I get that we all have to make a living to feed, well, our children, if we're still lucky enough to have them after PA. But as a parent advocate who holds an MBA in Healthcare, I could not see myself charging already indigent parents who so desperately need these services. It seems almost hypocritical at its core. We need more experts in the courtrooms and overseeing their unethical counterparts already making huge profits off of the children that unnecessarily and needlessly suffer the most traumatic effects of PAS.

SEAN MALONEY
4/7/2018 06:04:30 pm

EXCELLANT ARTICLE LAYING OUT THE PROBLEM WITH THE FAMILY COURT PROCESS(I AM ALWAYS AMUSED BY THE USUAL ALLEGATION “HE WAS REALLY VOCAL AND DEFENSIVE AND BOY DID HE SOUND ANGRY!” ; AS IF THIS WOULD BE A SURE SIGN OF AN ABUSIVE PERSON AS OPPOSED TO A TRAUMATIZED PERSON PROTESTING THEIR INNOCENTS OVER FALSE ALLEGATIONS AS THEY FIGHT TO HAVE S LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR CHILD WITHOUT THE UMBRELLA OF SUSPICION AND GOSSIP HANGING OVER THEM IN THE COMMUNITY).

Erik van der Waal link
4/11/2018 11:11:07 am

So true..
It should be standard practice -particular in divorce cases- to have a family court judge demand police (if not already done) to conduct a thourough investigation of the allegation towards a parent and by starting this investigation with a psychiatric personality scan/evaluation by an experienced (and trained in PA dynamics too) psychiatrist/clinical psychologist of both parents, the parent (with the allegation towards the other parent) to be first examined.
There should also be a severe repercussion by law when investigation makes it clear that the allegation was false and very probably intended to harm the other parent (to gain (sole or more) custody over the kids).

Cheryl
1/13/2019 08:57:33 pm

How about the Alienator telling the kids to go tell everybody.. your teachers, your friends.. Everybody that your mother abuses you.. That right there is the pathological part. He was in such a rage- he was almost serious about me abusing them I think.. I can only imagine what he has been through, The man I married was never coming back.

Joe Farrugia
4/18/2019 01:31:16 am

I have been going through this for years been disclosed from doctors appointments through to therapy sessions ,my daughter having days off school not been told she’s just about to turn eight I haven’t seen her for the last two years it’s just been one thing after another Allegations of child abuse that I’m just about to go through court and will defeat it and can also prove that these allegations are false
When you have people in authority who’s investigation of the allegations were integrity was breached on so many levels it’s no wonder that parents get frustrated when there not being herd or even given a chance to defend myself against any allegations because their was no transparency of any of the investigation to the parent who was being investigated
I can on and on about what has happened to me I know I’ve got a case against everyone involved with material to prove it
What the other parent don’t realise that they may think that the pain and suffering they cause to you is that the actual abuse that there done to their own child could be detrimental for the rest of her life being so young

Sorry if I’ve dragged on a bit but we all have our own experience maybe out of this I could help anyone with how to restrain themselves from turning to violence because remember that’s what the other parent wants you to do I always put my daughter first because seeing my daughter again even though the pain I’ve gone through seeing my daughter again far out ways anything else in this world

Joe Farrugia
4/18/2019 01:32:04 am

I have been going through this for years been disclosed from doctors appointments through to therapy sessions ,my daughter having days off school not been told she’s just about to turn eight I haven’t seen her for the last two years it’s just been one thing after another Allegations of child abuse that I’m just about to go through court and will defeat it and can also prove that these allegations are false
When you have people in authority who’s investigation of the allegations were integrity was breached on so many levels it’s no wonder that parents get frustrated when there not being herd or even given a chance to defend myself against any allegations because their was no transparency of any of the investigation to the parent who was being investigated
I can on and on about what has happened to me I know I’ve got a case against everyone involved with material to prove it
What the other parent don’t realise that they may think that the pain and suffering they cause to you is that the actual abuse that there done to their own child could be detrimental for the rest of her life being so young

Sorry if I’ve dragged on a bit but we all have our own experience maybe out of this I could help anyone with how to restrain themselves from turning to violence because remember that’s what the other parent wants you to do I always put my daughter first because seeing my daughter again even though the pain I’ve gone through seeing my daughter again far out ways anything else in this world

Donna Johnson-Davis
6/3/2019 05:29:25 pm

I am an "Erased Mom" and it was a living nightmare. I was not married to a boyfriend and had a daughter. After we broke up I got involved with a con artist. I was put in jail for "self defense" and this is how the EX-boyfriend was able to get "temporary custody" After my release the ex boyfriend used the court system to keep daughter out of my life for 18 years. I spent all my savings on attorneys and was awarded 50/50 joint legal custody. The ex boyfriend then moved away and changed hos phone number so I could never contact him. Going to the police did not help as they just said "Take him back to court" I was angry. I didn't have the money to take him back to court. Why couldn't they track him down and arrest him or at least track him down for me so I could know where my daughter was at ? The year was 2000 and parental alienation was not known and my cries fell on deaf ears. Today, my alienated daughter is 23 and she wants nothing to do with me. The dad controlled everything ! What school she would go to, what college she would attend. I have had no contact whatsoever due to P A S. It is a crime and it affected me all these years. Even after getting married to a sane and stable man and having 4 children. I never forgot about Katie Pyne, dob-3/21/1996. I pray to God she finds me one day. I live in FL and she lives in CA......somewhere ! She avoids me like her dad does. Even her rich grand-parents that helped in alienation refuse to talk to me. I send cards and letters to my daughter and they always come back "Return to Sender" Ya, I'm an erased Mom. But I can never erase Katie, my own flesh and blood ! - Heartbroken And Devastated, Donna Davis, Florida


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    Dr. Bone is an experienced consultant for cases involving Parental Alienation and has spent over 25 years working with high conflict divorce as a therapist, expert witness, mediator, evaluator and consultant, both nationally and internationally. 

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